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So This Is Us Now

March 21, 2020

I’ve been thinking for a while that the days of the blog are slowly sliding away, however… given recent global events (and my booming statistics) it would appear that people are reading again.

And as I sit here now with my sanity slowly sliding away, I think it’s probably time to start writing again.

So… My family has been isolating since the 14th as my husband can work from home. The schools are officially closed starting on the 23rd, but I felt that because I am a stay at home parent who didn’t need to leave the house anyway, it was best for our family and the wider community if I took the kids out sooner rather than later.

As the country slowly shut down over this week I’ve been working very hard to control my chaotic and overwhelmed feelings about the big picture while sitting here with 2 energetic children who need me to hold it together.

It’s much easier said than done.

The fact that I would have them home for an undefined period of time didn’t hit me fully until the official announcement was made that the schools would indeed be closing. I knew it was going to happen, but it wasn’t really real until it did. Now it’s real, and it’s heavy.

I am worried about so many people that I love and care about all over the world, but the only people who I am directly responsible for at this moment in time are the ones I gave birth to, and I’ve found myself in a position I never dreamed I would be in as they are losing at least 3 full months of school/nursery time.

The first thing I did for the sake of doing something was make a daily weekday schedule and a chore chart for each of the girls which I wasn’t too sure would be received very well. It turns out, they both love the structure! ( I should know this by now, I’ve been a parent for nearly 8 years) The next thing I did was I created each of us a healthy living chart which I know my oldest will hold me accountable for so I can’t get too lazy about making sure we all eat well and get at least some daily exercise. I’ve laminated all of the charts and hung them on the wall so they can be erased and reused.

My oldest daughter will be 8 this year and she is an extremely bright child who excels academically. She is in a mainstream classroom and has many friends. I mention this bit because she is also autistic which presents some random, unique challenges, however her teachers so far have all been amazing in navigating them.

Her school very much promotes pupil driven learning which I love, because they retain so much more when they are the ones asking the questions rather than being given some information and being asked to regurgitate it back at testing time.  So after I had a slight meltdown at the overwhelming prospect of failure in being 100% responsible for her learning, I realized that this could be an amazing opportunity for helping her learn some things that her very unique little self is interested in.

Instead of a classroom full of children deciding which direction to go in, she has full control. That would have been my dream as a child who also loved to learn and had atypical interests.

My favorite parent reminded me (as I was having my slight meltdown) that my grandfather in the US was a biology teacher for 30 years and he would probably jump on the idea to work with us long distance to create a lesson plan uniquely tailored to what she wants to learn. I have all the knowledge in my brain, probably more than most with my academic background, but I need his teacher brain to help me streamline it all. Luckily, Biology, Science and Human Anatomy are a few of her primary interests. She takes anatomy books to bed to read every night.

When I spoke to my grandfather about it, and explained that I had been teaching her about the lymphatic system he was so excited. I love so much that they’re both so excited about this… and she’s going to be having a very science driven isolation in addition to making some long distance memories with her GREAT grandfather.

Besides science I’ve also been teaching her about various other things that she’s expressed an interest in, like pagan spiritual practices that predate Christianity and where various symbolism and traditions come from. That’s history right?

She also has access to maths programs from the school which she plays every day on her tablet and I bought her a new book to start encouraging her to take in some fiction at bedtime.

I’ve definitely got art and crafts completely covered.

The schools aren’t giving us much guidance yet, and I don’t expect that they will for her age range. But we’ve started a notebook where she’s been recording the things that she’s learned about. At the very least, it will be a cool keepsake.

As for my 4 year old, well I’m feeling pretty confident I can nail nursery activities so that’s not so much of a worry. I am a bit sad that she’s missing out on social time with her peers as she’s only just started in August, but I’m happy she’s at least got a sister at home to play with.

My husband and I have slowly made our garden into a nature haven over the last few years and this year we’ll be growing more food than ever with the kids in addition to clearing a space for camping in the garden and cooking outdoors.

Also, let’s not forget all of the adventures we can still go out and find in nature away from people…. We’ve gotten really good at those over the last couple years as well.

So… Deep breath… I think I’m going to be OK. My stomach may be in knots and I may have a never ending tension headache for the foreseeable future but I’ve got a plan, and I feel better about that at least.

Stay healthy and safe everyone.

 

 

 

 

From → Mommy-ness

3 Comments
  1. That’s a great, nay wonderful, regimen you’ve got sorted there and your hands and days full. Remember to try to take a breather :)

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